Monday, September 21, 2009

International Babywearing Week: A Dad's perspective


I'm excited to welcome a guest blogger to our site today. Without further ado...

Dear readers,

My name is Sean and I'm Kristen's husband. The dust has finally settled from the chaos that dominated the past couple of weeks. Closing the store on the Downtown Mall was both emotionally and physically draining but we've reorganized and after a restful weekend at home we're energized and looking to the future. I know that I can't fill the void left by Cate but I hope that I can bring a different yet insightful perspective on babywearing and natural parenting: through a father's eyes.

As you can see from the title, today kicks off International Babywearing Week. My first introduction to babywearing started as most new parents did. I, well, OK, Kristen, received a Swedish infant carrying device at a baby shower and I used it to bring our first born along for my twice daily romps through the woods with the dogs. I was quite happy frankly. I got to spend time with my new baby girl during my favorite parts of the day while Kristen relished some quality quite time alone.

Then, one afternoon, while strolling through the National Arboretum in Washington, DC a man yelled at me for carrying my daughter the way I was. Kristen and I were startled and upset but most of all curious as to why he had accosted us in that manner. The woman he was with was wearing her baby in what I recall now to be some sort of wrap. Maybe it was a pouch. I can't honestly remember but it was new to us at the time. Needless to say, that sparked a flurry of research online and after Kristen found the local babywearing group chapter, our fate was sealed and all for the better.

I must admit, I was a slow learner when it came to babywearing and I resisted a little, but once I realized how comfortable and practical it was I was hooked. I tried on most every carrier that Kristen brought home or ordered and we soon had amassed quite the collection. I tended towards Mei Tai's and still do. I just love the simplicity and packabilty of them. I didn't care if I was wearing a pink BabyHawk or a yellow Kozy with flowers. I was wearing a happy baby who was stoked to be riding with daddy who in turn was stoked to be able to hold two dogs in the park or a frosty fermented beverage on the neighbors porch or yes, even vaccuming (which I do love btw, something about the instant gratification) or doing the dishes (not so much love for the dishes) while also showing the world to my daughter.

Over the past four years, during which I've carried my son almost daily for the past two, I've bent the ear of pretty much every person that will listen, parent or not about the benefits of babywearing. I try not so sound fanatical and I don't believe that I have accosted anyone for using that-Swedish-carrier-that-will-not-be-named, but I do heartily believe in babywearing. During this week we should all try and bend an ear or two in the direction of babywearing.

Enjoy the ride,


Sean

Sunday, September 13, 2009

This is My Goodbye

Nature's Child, as a brick & mortar location, is now closed. Sadly, my favorite natural parenting store couldn't weather the recession. However, the online location of the store and its sister site, Along for the Ride, will still exist.

I've loved writing here, and it's become my soapbox the last two years!

I will still be writing online at Eco Child's Play, where my blogs are very much like the ones here at Nature's Child. You can check me out there by subscribing to Green Options media. Even before I began writing for ECP, this was one of the e-mails that I'd religiously read every day, as it covers an array of news across the "green living" spectrum.
It doesn't, however, show in the e-mail who the author of each blog is, so if you'd particularly like to follow me, then find me on Twitter. I post all of my own blogs there, as well as those of many others!

It has been wonderful to have this dialogue with all of you. Thanks for your support!

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Excuse Our Dust: Now With Flame Retardants?

The popular notion has been that food is the source of the toxic flame retardants PBDEs. Wait, what?! Have I already lost you?

PBDEs are related to their infamous cousins, PCBs. Not only in structure, either. Both are toxic, and both bioaccumulate. How? Well, PBDEs start out in foam padding of furniture or in electronics and other oddities, and then they end up breaking down in landfills, thus entering the water system and even the land, getting into the lowest levels of the food chain. They then travel upwards through the food chain. Humans who eat meat munch on a heckuva lot more PBDEs than vegetarian people.

But that's not the only way we come into contact with flame retardants. Of course, we get hit with them through the actual products. That's why it's important to pick up, say, an organic crib mattress for your little ones. To minimize the risk.


Now, new research shows that we may be getting a dose of flame retardents from the bane of household existence: dust.
HBCDs (hexabromocyclododecanes...bless you!) are just as harmful as PBDEs, and they're more present in our everyday lives

When researchers followed a small sample of people (16) they found that the HBCDs were indeed in their blood, but rarely in their food, of which they provided samples.
Researchers reported a strong correlation between the estimated dust intake of HBCDs and the blood concentration of the chemical.

However, the toxin was in all dust samples.

From Environmental Health News:
The use of HBCD-treated products, rather than industrial pollution, may thus contribute more importantly to human exposure. In addition, infants and toddlers may be at greatest risk of exposure because they crawl on floors and may increase their exposure due to hand-to-mouth behavior.
Because this was a study performed in Belgium, it may play out differently in the States. After all, Europe has banned PBDEs, so HBCD is often the replacement fire retardant. But it could be an indicator of our own exposure for either toxin.
Indeed, a year ago, the Environmental Working Group found that toddlers had much higher levels of PBDEs than the adults in their houses, as much as 3 times as high.

So what's the prob, Bob? Well, these chemicals interfere with the thyroid gland, which controls metabolism and growth. They also may impair brain development, memory, and learning.

While you're looking to "go green" in your diet, you also might want to go for natural and organic household goods. Or at least shy away from the items "protected" with flame retardants.

Image: Beige Alert on Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Aden & Anais: Who knew it'd save us while camping?

When I was pregnant with Baby E, I discovered the Aden & Anais swaddling blankets. You might remember these nifty covers from my "Parent's Pick" post or a giveaway we had a while back.
I heart them.
You know how you get about 613 receiving blankets at your baby shower? And you only keep a handful of supersoft organic cuddly ones? I hate that. You can either use one instead of an infant insert for your new favorite baby carrier. Or you can donate a whole lot of them to the really lucky nearest Goodwill or hock them at your favorite consignment shop.
Point is, you don't need all 613 blankets.

When I discovered the Aden & Anais muslin blankets, I realized I only needed 1. Okay, so 4. But I only needed these blankets. Since I am not so much a "brand" junkie, even I was surprised. But I loved that they were large (44 inches square), thin, soft, breathable, and cute. In Baby E's almost-18 months, they've never failed me. Still.
  • Fold it into a triangle and swaddle the fussy newborn.
  • Pop two together for chilly Fall nights, or pick up a winter warmer.
  • Drape it over a stroller on a hot day to sheild a sleeopy toddler from the sun without suffocating turning it into a sauna.
  • Buy them single, only at Nature's Child. Nope, you don't have to pick up a four-pack. You can mix and match, or just the one. (Psst...I've used them for gift toppers.) Or you could just go for a baby sleeping bag. Just as thin and soft, but stays in place for the wriggly sleeper.

And guess what else? Bring it camping to the beach and have it as the only blanket that survived--dry.
We went on our annual Labor Day camping trip over the weekend, this time to the Outer Banks. For those of you who don't know--and I didn't before I moved to Virginia--OBX is a chain of barrier islands on the North Carolina coast. I always wondered about barrier islands. Why would anyone want to live in a place so exposed to the elements? The answer there is probably that these people love the beach, and they're freakin tough.
The real question should be: why would anyone go camping there at the close of hurricane season?


No, a hurricane didn't actually hit our tent. but it stormed so bad for a day and a half that we couldn't get off Ocracoke Island. For our non-4WD car, the roads were impassable until Tuesday.
Monday night, when the little guys and I were peacefully sleeping in the tent (if peacefully means huddled under a sleeping bag together like a tortoise to hide from the splashes of rain in our leaking tent), the tent finally lost its battle with the wind and caved.
Quick, Cate, get the 18-month-old and 4-year-old out of the tent in the dark without scaring them.

Little L. Wake up. Grab your blanket. Open the tent and step out. We're going to the car.


I grabbed the sleeping Baby E along with a sleeping bag, and charged through the rain to our '82 Mercedes, where Mark and Ara were actually sleeping peacefully, having decided that they were done sleeping in a tent in the rain.

The next morning, I was thankful the tent had collapsed on the us. I'm not kidding. Where our tent stood, caved in, there was two feet of water. Everything in there--including any dry clothes we had left--was soaked.
So how did the Aden & Anais survive? Actually, it didn't. My favorite goldfish-printed blanket was ironically under water too. But as I wrung out all the clothing and laid them out to dry, I realized I could use the hand dryer in the bathroom to dry it. I grabbed a few thin Tees and the muslin blanket, and after a few minutes, they were dramatically drier. (Why yes, I did waste electricity on this!)
After our wet weekend--Viola--my Baby E still had a blanket dry. Last night, it was perfect for the long, sleepy trip back to the mountains.

This is the one must-have for new parents. Check 'em out here.

Image: Corey Ann on Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

Monday, September 7, 2009

Home Birth: Just as Safe as the Hospital

Well, another study has confirmed it: Home births with a midwife are just as safe as hospital births. This Spring, a study from the Netherlands, which has a phenomenal rate of home births (30 percent), found that home births are just as safe as hospital births for low-risk women. This study was based on the outcomes of 530,000 births.

But a new Canadian study, based on about 13,000 births, shows that home birth is, indeed, just as safe as a hospital birth. Cool part? I mean, besides the whole, "birth however you wanna" thing? They studied more than 5,300 hospital births attended by physicians, 2,900 planned home births attended by regulated midwives, and more than 4,700 planned hospital births attended by the same midwives.(I like that there were the same midwives used in both settings.)

And what they found won't surprise you: hospital births overall had a heck of a lot more interventions. More electronic fetal monitoring, epidural, assisted vaginal delivery and caesarean section, and other outcomes, like hemorrhage and infection.

Maybe it's just me. While I love this news, I don't find it all that surprising. Like, "Guess what! In the comfort of their own homes, most women have better births."

CTV spoke with a doctor in British Columbia, Patricia Janssen:
We don't know why birth at home is associated with fewer interventions, but women tell us they feel more comfortable, they don't have to get up in the middle of their labour and head to hospital, and they have more control over their environment.


Alright moms. It's not all about you. It's good for baby, too! Babies born at home were actually less likely to suffer from minor complications like respiratory problems after birth.

Researchers remind families that this is for low-risk women. That is, women who were healthy before pregnancy and have no complications.

I was a home birth, and had both my sons at the hospital. But I have a special place in my heart for home birthing.
Do you love this news, or what?!

Check out Kristen's home birthing story!
Image: dizznbonn on Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

Friday, September 4, 2009

"Mommy Breastfeeds" Book Review and Giveaway!

That whole mess about Bebé Glotón, the breastfeeding doll? Altogether, there was no need. For any parent who believes in letting their children explore, imagine, pretend, and figure stuff out on their own, a doll with a horrible electronic burp seemed like silly plastic in a world reeking of PVC. Let your child ask questions about breastfeeding, besides, "Mama, why do I have to put on this halter top to breastfeed the toy?"



With that in mind, "Mommy Breastfeeds My Baby Brother" is the perfect book for inquisitive kids. Whether the tot asking the questions is the proud new older sibling or a confused cousin, this book is a great way to open up communication about the most natural thing in the world: breastfeeding.

In the story, big sister Jenna is confronted with a set of issues: how do I share Mama with this new baby, especially when he eats at her breast?
The answer, for this family, is special time for Jenna.
Jenna gets the gift of "quiet time" toys while Mommy breastfeeds. She gets one-on-one time with her mama while baby brother sleeps. And she gets to be Daddy's special helper with the new little guy.

Written and promoted by a family, "Mommy Breastfeeds" knows how to reach your child. They address everything from "Why can't Daddy breastfeed?" to the breastpump. And after you read this together, your tot can pretend to breastfeed on his or her own, with imaginative free play.

Pretty cool, eh? Now...you want to win one?
The Repkins have passed on an extra copy for one of you!


Here's what you do:
1) For your regular entry, post a comment about how you think we can get kids to understand breastfeeding.

Other entries:
2) Follow me on Twitter and tweet about this giveaway (@thecatenelson so I know you did!)
3) Become a follower of this blog and post a comment so I know who you are.

Hurry! Contest ends Wednesday, September 9.

Erykah Badu: HomeBirther, Homeschooler, Breastfeeder, Natural Mama

Screw Angelina Jolie. (That wasn't an invitation.)
When I posted on her cover of W magazine, I was happy that she made breastfeeding more accessible and "normal" (because everything celebs do is normal?) to the public. Then when an artist decided to immortalize this pose--for a woman who breastfed for 3 months--I wasn't as impressed. No, the Jitts (or the Polies?) did not play a part in this ridiculous statue, which features the svelt actress in a very uncomfortable-looking breastfeeding position, even more ridiculously holding a diverse set of twins. (As the mother of a biracial child who was dubbed "Caucasian" on paperwork soon after his birth, you can't always tell. And if you look at the statue close up, it's pretty darned impossible.)
Then, what can you expect from a sculptor who also canonized Britney Spears with a mother statue, giving birth on a bearskin rug? Yep. Because when I think, "Monument to Pro-Life," I think: Britney. head/desk.



Let's move on to a celebrity with very positive parenting pactices, from birth through childhood. Erykah Badu was interviewed on Babble, where she discussed her natural-minded lifestyle. This gorgeous mama homebirthed her three children, most recently daughter Mars, where her two older children were present. Very cool.
They were a big part of it. A very big part, because it was very sacred. They helped me welcome this baby into the world.
By the time I had my third baby, childbirth seemed a very natural part of life to me.


Though her oldest child is now in school, she also homeschooled him, to give him a leg-up in the world. While most people have this [shall we say...] interesting perception that homeschooled kids, while brilliant, aren't exactly getting any great benefits, Badu speaks beautifully on the topic:

I wanted to give Seven Sirius [who is entering sixth grade in the fall] special attention academically, to give him an advantage. So by being home-schooled he learned how to learn — he learned how to solve problems in a nontraditional way. In doing that he developed an edge in his schoolwork. He enjoys challenges. He pushes himself...

I home-schooled him myself. And my daughter, Puma Sabti, she's five — she's home-schooled. And the new baby just started school this week, now that she's six months.


Badu is vegan, and she is of course raising her children the same way. I always find this to be one of the most oddly interesting questions to parents with "alternative" diets or living practices. It's one thing to say, "Is your husband vegetarian, too?" It's another stretch of logic to think that mom might fix a NY Strip for her kids while settling in for a salad herself (because that's all that veg-heads eat).
She even does fancy things that even omnivorous healthy eaters can follow, like teach her children how to choose good food on their own, and making delicious alternatives to junky food.

Alright. So she's more crunchy than I am.
I am an "accidental" homeschooler now for Little L, because he's on a waiting list for the local preschool, and he's too much a smart cookie for me to not foster his (genetic) brilliance. And though I was once upon a time a vegetarian, I am not any longer. We eat vegetarian meals now only when I can sneak one past Mark. You'd have to see his crazy metabolism and need for protein to really get it.

But can we all feel inspired by this holistic, rockin' mom? Hell, yeah.

I feel great. And I think I'm real smart.


Check out the whole interview here.
Image: Wikimedia Commons.
Interesting tidbit: If Mark and I married our last name, we'd be the Nipples.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

The Girls Behind Gardasil: Lauren's Story

This is the beginning of a series featuring the families very deeply affected by Gardasil. We hear about the adverse effects in the news. I want you to hear about them firsthand, from these "survivors." Certainly, get the HPV vaccine if you feel it is necessary for your family. But while Merck has marketers and lobbyists on their side, the people most affected only have their passion and their willingness to share.
These are their stories.

Name: Lauren Mathis
Parents: Keith and Rosemary Mathis
Age at vaccination: 12 Years
Diagnosis – Over the course of the past years, my daughter has had several diagnoses including enlarged liver, gall bladder dysfunction, chronic gastritis, unknown, etc.
Disabled: Yes
Symptoms - Enlarged Liver, Gall Bladder Attacks, Severe Nausea, Chest Pain, Severe Abdominal Pain, Severe Headaches, Brain Freezes, Stomach Ulcer, Sensitivity to light
Length of Illness: 1 year
Recovered (Yes, No): No


Because of Gardasil, my beautiful 13 year old daughter missed almost her entire eighth grade year. She became severely depressed because she could not attend school or be with her friends like a normal child. Because of Gardasil, she was “One Less” in all aspects of her life. She went from being an Academically Gifted student to one who struggled to complete her 8th grade year of school. She was placed on a modified school plan by her principal who fully backed her because she was an excellent student who had been in the North Carolina Academically Gifted Program since 2nd grade.
Lauren's life became an endless round of hospital and doctor visits with little resolution to the severe pain that she was experiencing. She was even sent for surgery on her gall bladder at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center where a skilled surgeon recognized the symptoms where more than gall bladder dysfunction and thankfully did not operate.
We have spent the past year researching this horrible vaccine and the side effects and treating her with vitamins and medicine. My daughter is currently being treated by Duke University’s Children’s Hospital and Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center’s Brenner’s Children’s Hospital and the bills are now in the tens of thousands of dollars.
Thankfully, I am a manager for Lowe’s Home Improvement Warehouse in their Corporate Office and have a good insurance policy which has helped cover the costs associated with the effects of Gardasil.

The horrible realization is that VAERS is not accurate. Prior to Gardasil, I did not know what VAERS was. (The Vaccine Adverse Effects Reporting System.) When my daughter became ill, I found out about VAERS by research performed on the internet. My daughter’s doctors did not even know what it was and they did not file a report until I filed one myself and told them they were obligated by law to file a report. How can the numbers be accurate if doctors don’t file the reports? I even had to explain what VAERS is? Shouldn’t VAERS and the adverse side effects of vaccines be taught in medical school or shouldn’t the doctors receive periodic newsletters from the CDC explaining VAERS and its importance?

Who is protecting the American citizens and our precious children? How many girls will have to die before someone takes this serious? I beg of you to please ensure that this is investigated and that some changes are made to the VAERS reporting system also to require doctors to report any complaints for a vaccine. They should not simply brush reports of side effects after a vaccine off as “she just has a virus.” A virus would not last for one year, and the doctors do not understand the side effects of the vaccines that they are giving. It should be mandatory that the doctors fully understand their vaccines and there side effects and that they inform the parents upfront of what could happen.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

It's A Wrap! An Interview with the Mom-trepeneur Behind Gypsy Mama

We want you to know the fabulous people you support.
This is part of our series featuring the people behind our favorite products. Many of them were creative moms just like yourselves who had a great idea they thought was important to share with the rest of the world.

In Kristi's case, it was a stylin' new way to babywear. Check out the world of Gy
psy Mama, now known as Wrapsody.


Many of our favorite products were designed and/or made by parents. What was your “Ah-ha!” moment?

Though I'd been introduced to slings before my first child was born, and had a "babywearing lifestyle," I didn't meet wraps until my third came. Tracy, from the Mamatoto project, sent me some gauze wraps as a gift, and I LOVED them. I thought, "Everyone needs one of these!" I talked with her about it, and Gypsy Mama, LLC was born of that interaction.

A few weeks later, while showering with my new son in one of the gauze wraps Tracy had given me (cut in half and tied as a rebozo), I was lamenting about the rippiness of cotton gauze in water, and began conceiving of the Water Wrap and (now extinct) towel pouch. From there, things just grew.


Tell me about the Mamatoto Project. How did you hear about it, and what was the process?

Tracy and I were on an EC (Elimination Communication) list together, and I was expressing my frustration at wet slings (I only had two, then, both Maya Wraps). She offered to send some wraps, and told me about the Mamatoto Project. The website was in its infancy then, but I thought it was brilliant! There was almost no online wrap instruction at the time -- only 3 or 4 carries Tracy had up, and Peppermint's instructions were readily accessible. TheBabywearer.com had one back carrying instruction. I loved watching Tracy grow the site and add carries, etc. Shortly after I "met" her online, she helped me start my business, helping with gifts of fabric and fabric loans. Without her help, Gypsy Mama could not have flourished as quickly as it did.


I notice that some of the patterns reflect the names of your children. Can you tell me a little more about that? How did you relate the two?

When I first began working with the Balinese artist in designing wraps, I wanted each of my children to have a wrap. My children -- named Morgaine, Orion, and Isaac, are, to me, the sun, sea, and stars.

Morgaine means "by the sea." I had previously designed a mermaid wrap to benefit Tsunami victims. I had loved that wrap, and wanted to design another mermaid wrap -- it was a very natural namesake for my Morgaine.

Orion, my star child, bears the name of the Orion constellation, which stands beside the constellation of the river Eridanus. His wrap was kind of a reach, but he has my water-colored wrap, which connects via that river and his blue, blue eyes. No other wrap in my first set of designs suited him as a namesake.

My Isaac's name was suggested to me by a Joan Baez song, the lyric which runs:
And oh, Isaac
the light of all your days
will shine upon this mountain high
and never, ever fade away.

He is my shining sun, and I named Isaac after him -- a yellow wrap with orange tribal suns. It was not very popular, and I was sad that the first wrap I discontinued bore my son's name -- so later, I made "Isjoha," taking the first two letters of his first, middle, and last names -- a koi wrap. My Isaac is a Pisces, so
I tied it together like that. Unfortunately, that is also retired, but perhaps in the future I'll make him another.


I know that when you started Gypsy Mama/Wrapsody, you were a single mom. How did the company allow you to manage life?

When I first started Wrapsody, my youngest was less than a month old. My marriage was struggling hard, but I did not become a single mother until two weeks after my youngest turned a year old. It was at that time that I moved from having a business-as-hobby to having the wraps manufactured.

My customers were extraordinarily supportive, and their support helped me grow the business quickly enough to remain at home with my children rather than joining the workforce outside the home.

I was able to provide them the support and stability of having their mother consistently with them during a difficult and rapidly changing time for them. In the year after their father moved out, they acquired with him a new stepfamily and a new baby brother, and I was happy to be able to stay with them throughout that process, as well as have the flexibility to adapt to their father's schedule until it became consistent (he works as a nurse).
Mostly, I was able to remain true to what, for me, is an important parenting lifestyle, including homeschooling, and to remain very present with my children, while staying afloat financially, even purchasing a home when the business outgrew our small trailer.




Tell me about your parenting/work balance. How do you homeschool your children and run a business?

My kids are with their father for part of the week in a shared custody situation, so that sets the rhythm of our lives. We school in pockets during the week, at opportune moments, in the evenings, on the weekends, during shopping trips, etc. 2 to 3 days a week we focus on having a chunk of time for more "schooly" stuff -- writing, math, directed reading, fun projects. Often, the kids will work beside me while I am in the barn, and I take frequent breaks to help them with their work.

We also are involved with a great local homeschool group, so we have playgroup time carved out.

I do the bulk of my Gypsy Mama work during the days they are with their father. The flexibility of the business allows me to work anywhere, any time -- I carve out work hours during long car trips (when I'm not driving, of course), in the evening, first thing in the morning. I can pop online for 30 minutes throughout the day and catch up on a handful of things.

I think it's my lack of structured lifestyle that allows us to be successful at finding this balance between work, play, and family.




It seems daunting. What were the first steps in your career path, and how has the company changed over time?

In the beginning, the company was a way for me to earn extra income while expressing my creative ideas -- I dyed fabrics myself, designed appliques. The original Gypsy Mamas were very "patchie chic." Once my marriage failed, I had to focus more on growing and thriving, on increasing production and sales. I have learned a lot about running a business -- I had no real business skills when I embarked on this adventure.

Moving into international trade was a huge challenge for me -- there are so many laws to navigate.
Once I received a letter from the Department of Homeland Security because I wasn't marking my wraps correctly -- that was really intimidating.
More recently, I have learned a lot more about labeling, during the hours and hours I spent researching the new children's legislation, CPSIA. Many of us get into business with a creative passion and gather the tools as we go -- I am definitely that way.

I have learned a lot about navigating crisis -- during our rebranding campaign last year, for example, I had so many problems -- a designer who was slow on producing and not as responsive to feedback as I would have liked; a knee injury and then problems with my vocal cords really affected the filming of my DVD; the economy tanked in the midst of all the delays -- there was a lot of problem solving that had to happen. I learned to coordinate teams of professionals, among other things.
More than anything, I think being an entrepreneur has had a huge impact on my self confidence.
I have this clearly marked path to reflect on -- a path that was not so clearly marked when I walked down it, but on which I have left many marks. It's neat to walk into my warehouse and see what I've created.


I love the fabrics you choose. How do aesthetics play, and who designs the wraps?

Most of the wraps are designed by me. Some are very specific -- for example, I said in the beginning, "I want a sage wrap, with dragonflies." "I want a turquoise wrap, with mermaids." That first batch of breezes, in 2005, were also influenced by Kristen DeRocha, who owns Hotslings. "Do a Hibiscus print," she told me. She was right -- Haumea continues to be one of my best sellers.

Sometimes, designs of other fabrics my artist has created inspire me -- this was the case with Isis. "I'd like that," I said, "but in blue and brown."

I love the design process.

Usually, I'll have an idea for a flavor or theme. Recently, for example, I designed two wraps -- a Celtic design and a leaf design. The Celtic design has been hovering for years in my mind. I took inventory of what color gaps I'd like to fill and decided on a brick, with grey background. Then I googled knotwork images endlessly, finally deciding on a pattern. My artist and I communicated using Pantonecolor numbers, then she sent me drafts. I shared the drafts with my customers and chose one.

For the leaves, the design was inspired by a fabric Jennifer Rosenburg designed for us to batik a couple years ago. I had originally mocked it up in brown and green -- but, I have two brown wraps in stretch, and two green. So I wanted something different, and I wasn't sure what it was. So, to google I went, googling leaf fabrics, leaf photographs, leaf paintings, and so forth, until I hit upon my theme -- leaves in the water.
After several mockups, I shared the images with my customers before arriving at the coloring you'll see on the final wraps, which will be available in late September or early October.


Tell me about the people who supply the wraps. Where do you source your material and the printing?

Our Bali line is manufactured in Bali, Indonesia. The owner of the company is, herself, a single mother, though her children are now grown. She provides housing for many of her employees, and others live nearby. She employs pattern makers, batikers, and sewers. The dyestuffs she uses are all manufactured by Dyestar, which has provided me certifications for their dyes, and the batiking is done outdoors, and is heavily dependent upon the weather.

I love working with the company, and the owner is a warm, wonderful woman. She has sent photos of her pet monkeys for my children when they have been ill, and even helped me design a quilt for a special friend of mine.

Our water wraps are made in New England at a family-owned cut-and-sew facility. The fabric comes from a New England company, as well as all our packaging.
I take a lot of pride in sourcing locally wherever appropriate, and from quality, reputable companies with good work ethics when it is not appropriate to source locally.



Any advice for other mom-trepreneurs?

I think it's important to have a niche, to know your market. Do the research before you start -- be professional, but don't be afraid to take risks. I wish I'd known more about business before I started, but I'm glad I went ahead with the business anyway. However, it's been the research at each stage that has allowed me to take informed risks that have paid off well in the end.
I think with so many mom-trepreneurs who've been doing this a while, sometimes the tempation to rely on their research is hard to resist for new business owners. However, doing the groundwork makes you a stronger business person, IMO, and that strength is important during challenging times.


What is next for Wrapsody?

I have so many ideas -- but realistically, in our current economy, I am going to continue focusing on what I do well -- designing beautiful, quality wraps and getting them into the hands of the families that want them.
I'd like to reach more and more families that can benefit from these products, and I think the way to do that is for even more boutique stores, like Nature's Child, to carry my products.

I am also expanding my international market, and beginning to learn about the complex world of sales reps. Currently, Gypsy Mama has reps in Russia and in Spain. I see
expansion into South America in our near future, and I'm very excited about that, also.

My oldest is very into fashion design, and I think there's a strong possibility that she'll be designing a colorway in the next year or two, and I know my new husband has expressed interest in doing a design, and he occasionally throws design ideas my way. Definitely I'm trying to bring the design influences of others into the business, to ensure a real variety of the flavors of wraps I offer.

Lastly, I've got new Water Wrap instructions and packaging percolating, and they should be available with the spring batch of Water Wraps, if all goes well. I'm looking forward to that -- I loved the packaging and branding process with the Bali line.


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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Breast Pumping at Work? "You're Fired!"

As a woman who has both pumped and breastfed at different places of employment, this news story struck a chord.

The Ohio Supreme Court ruled that Totes/Isotoner was well within their rights when, in 2005 (when yours truly was pumping away in a work locker room), the company fired an employee for taking unauthorized breaks to pump breastmilk. LaNisa Allen then sued the company for gender and discrimination based on any medical condition arising from pregnancy or childbirth.
The court upheld the firing, saying that the termination was not discrimination, buying the argument from Totes/Isotoner that,
Totes has taken the position since the beginning of this case that it terminated the plaintiff (Allen) for a proper reason, and that's that she took unauthorized work breaks, regardless of her sex or condition.


Yeah....because breastfeeding and pumping can be totally separated from her status as a woman. And since when is lactating not a feature of pregnancy and childbirth? Certainly, some amazing adoptive moms have done it, but every woman who gives birth lactates, whether she chooses to use that gift or not.
Ms. Allen concedes that she did in fact take breaks at times different from those scheduled.



Now, I've read extensively the comments in reaction to this news. Many, many people were of the opinion that Allen is playing the martyr, using her sex as an excuse for poor performance and firing. The following are words from some of these brilliant individuals.
From a so-called "feminist":
This ruling is correct. If women seek "special" treatment because they are pregnant, that IS sexist. This NOT feminism this is weak. Motherhood is a CHOICE not an illness they cannot control, and depending on the business other employees may have to compensate without monetary reward....
Blame the victim?! You are kidding right? Victim of what her job? Her boobs? You are crazy if you think she is a victim. I suppose you think you are one of those new feminists? Guess what victimology is NOT feminism. [sic]

(psst. Apparently you're only a feminist if you have the same life experiences as her. And if you ignore the natural processes of your body to enter the workforce. She would love Hanna Rosin.)

From people who didn't read the oral arguments:
I absolutely support women who juggle breastfeeding and work. I was one of them. You can't just take a break whenever you feel like it, though.


Breast feeding isn't an emergency. You know well before hand if you're going to need to take breaks for this. She should have talked this over with her boss BEFOREHAND rather than sneak off while on the clock. She has the right to care for herself, and shouldn't be penalized for needing and asking for extra breaks to do so. But the key fact here is that she never asked for the time.



Dude, have you ever had your breasts fill up with milk? Not only do you increase your chance of an infection such as mastitis, but you're really freakin' uncomfortable. Early in breastfeeding (or sometimes through it, depending on your body), you leak from the pressure. Especially if you think about the child, which you're more likely to do because your breasts have filled with milk for said baby.
Allen's lawyers even argued such, saying that other employees took unscheduled bathroom breaks without approval. But since she couldn't prove that any of them took 15-minute potty breaks, the court disagreed that the analogy fit.
They could have mentioned smoke breaks, which no one needs to be healthy or productive at their place of employment, but didn't.

The commenters on the Columbus-Dispatch are of the opinion that she was lazy and sneaky and simply didn't ask for the time to pump. They're wrong, according to the oral arguments, which you can find here:
  • She was hired through a third party contract agency to work at the Totes/Isotoner warehouse. The position had the prospect of becoming permanent after 90 days.
  • After the new hire orientation, Allen discussed with her supervisor the need to pump breastmilk, as she was exclusively breastfeeding her 5-month-old child.
  • The supervisor called her later that day and said she would be scheduled from 6 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. and would be able to pump during her lunch break at 11 a.m.
  • She started working at the plant, and breastfed her baby at 5:30 a.m., just before leaving every morning. She found that waiting until 11 a.m. was too long, and she would experience engorgement, pain, and leakage.
  • Also, the 10-minute break given at 8 a.m. wasn't long enough to pump.
  • Instead, she began taking an unscheduled restroom break at 10 a.m. to pump.
  • Two weeks after her "sneakiness", she was told she was violating work rules by pumping then.
  • She asked for her 8 a.m break to be extended 10 or 15 minutes so she could pump fully then.
  • Later that day, she was called into the supervisor's office, where her employment was terminated.
  • She asked whether her firing was associated with her need to pump breastmilk, but received no reply.

Last Thursday, the Ohio Supreme Court ruled 5-1 in favor of the corporation, best known for its stocking-stuffer gloves.
How family-friendly. Especially this enlightened bit, from the ruling opinion:
Allen gave birth over five months prior to her termination from [Isotoner]. Pregnant [women] who give birth and choose not to breastfeed or pump their breasts do not continue to lactate for five months. Thus, Allen's condition of lactating was not a condition relating to pregnancy but rather a condition related to breastfeeding. Breastfeeding discrimination does not constitute gender discrimination.

WTF?! Soo...score one for formula feeders? Dude, she totally could have chosen to mix some powder up instead of strap on a pump. But the "lazy" woman milked herself instead.
Meh. She was just a low-level employee anyhow.



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